I need to record the truth about my experiences of – and with – men. Not what my mum’s words have taught me to believe, but what I actually experienced, and felt.

I need to deal with my Dad first. He was the man that she hated the most. Never in my life have I heard her say a good word about him, not once. He has been called every name you can think of. He’s been accused of so many things, none of which I know to be true. For years, I ignored the feelings I had about my Dad and only believed what she told me.

This is my Dad:

• A hardworking man
• Provider for his family
• Relaxed
• Easygoing
• Funny
• Loud
• Over the top
• Comfortable in his own skin
• Approachable
• Intuitive
• Caring
• Supportive
• Friendly
• Happy
• Warm
• Easy to talk to
• Great sense of humour
• Great fun to be around
• Clever
• Diligent
• Committed to his personal growth
• Brave
• Unafraid to talk to his children about personal things
• Would drop everything if we needed him
• Generous with money