When I left Tom, I started finding my truth. My thoughts recently are the culmination of three years of finding myself, finding my truth, and now starting to live it. Events over the last few days have powered these thoughts further.

My friend Viv confided in me that there is a man who is in love with her and that she has similar feelings for him. Viv has made the decision not to act on these feelings at all and to stay in a marriage that has lost all spark. I wonder if Viv’s decision is wrong.

I wonder if she should totally embrace the feelings she’s having and act completely on instinct, and if that means having an affair with this man, then so be it. I’ve come to believe that it’s vital – the very essence of our soul’s growth – to go with wherever the pull takes us, no matter the consequences. Following the compulsive urges that we so often feel will do one of two things. Bring us to a new place of being, a better place. A place we’re now meant to be in, or it will bring us back to where we are now but with vast growth along the way, so you can turn what you had back around into something more alive, more satisfying to the soul.

I know that may sound foolish, but why do we get these strong, compulsive urges if we’re not meant to do something about them? An affair doesn’t mean the end of her marriage. It may do, in which case it would probably have come to an end anyway. Or, it may have carried on forever, lacking any kind of life. It could even reignite the passion that her marriage currently lacks.

This isn’t just about relationships and affairs, not at all. This is about everything in life.

The pull towards a new career, a better education, a house move, anything. If it’s felt deep within, if you can’t stop thinking about it, maybe that is your intuition telling you that you must act on it.

From now on, I’m going to listen, and I’m going to act according to whatever my intuition tells me to do.

I know that what will most likely happen is that my world and the world of those around me will get shaken up. Sometimes that will instantly be for the better, and sometimes it may appear to be for the worst, but ultimately, it will bring about change which is for the better for all. I’m going into this with my eyes open. I know it may not always be easy, but I trust that whatever I feel absolutely compelled to do is the right thing to do.