I took a moment today to completely focus on Phil’s many positive attributes with no thoughts of the things that are marring our relationship, at least for me. I’m nowhere near the stage of moving in together or marriage, but I do want to continue a relationship with him, and I do want to focus on the good, and not so much on his little idiosyncrasies that sometimes trouble me.

Phil is a manifestation of many of my hopes and wishes in a man.

He is strong of character, independent, funny, romantic, loving, considerate, kind, gentle, hardworking, patient, understanding, spiritual, deep-thinking, easygoing, relaxed, passionate, open, organic, empathetic, thoughtful and intelligent.

He has been a great teacher for me, and continues to be, in each moment that passes. I have learnt so much about myself and my beliefs since knowing him. I have grown emotionally and spiritually, and he’s been there to support every step of that. I can be who I really am with him; he loves unconditionally, no matter what I say or do. I love that we sit and talk for hours on end and never run out of things to say, and yet it’s not that we need to talk. We are happy just being with each other.

I love that we laugh, a lot. That our humour is the same and that he is so fun. He has, and continues to, help me heal, not by anything he’s set out to do but by loving me and accepting me. If I’ve had a bad day, he simply holds me, and even when we’re not physically together, he somehow manages to hold me anyway; such is the strength of his love. His strength cleanses and balances me.

His love empowers me.